Some people don't want to change, some people do.
Some credit not changing with being reliable and stable, whereas the people who WANT to change state that "change is inevitable" in this world...
So which is it? Do we remain the same to try and be reliable and stable? Or do we change?
I think it's a matter of what about you that you want to change. Perhaps there is just one certain behavior or habit that you want to change, and still keep most of the other parts of yourself the same.
I believe that a person can still be reliable, stable and loyal and still make changes in their life...
In my mind change is necessary in order to grow and learn and achieve goals.
For me there are behaviors and habits that I use to exhibit when I was younger that I wanted to change, that I did change and that I still want to change... My life has evolved and has shifted in different directions as I've reached the here and now. I'm still me, but I do some things a little differently now...
My past is a part of me, but it's behind me. I've learned from it and realize what mistakes I will never repeat again. And yet I've gained immense amounts of wisdom along the way...
I was reading another website that laid down "Ten Commandments" that a person needs to stick to to actually achieve change... they are as follows:
1) Be aware of the need for change
2) Want to change
3) Possess a sense of curiosity
4) Have the ability to self-reflect and be self-aware
5) Be open to feedback (the absence of defensiveness)
6) Know what specifically needs to change and what will replace it
7) Understand how to change
8) Receive constructive feedback throughout the change process
9) Be given emotional support and encouragement throughout the change process
10) Gain some kind of personal reward (reinforcement) from having changed
In the article it states that if there are too many of these commandments missing then you will not achieve the "change" or goal that you are reaching for. Keep this in mind. It's possible..... sometimes necessary to shed certain things from yourself....
